Recalling; times ago when everyone was created equal, but men were the greater beings; times when women struggled only to end up as, well, housewives, recalling. But then, in the 90’s, the late to be precise, there was a wake up call to every woman.
Protest were made, campaigns funded, historians reported, notable figures resounded. It was then, that there begat into the world, a sense of equality, a daughter named Feminism’. According to the oxford dictionary, feminism is the belief and aim that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men; the struggle to achieve this aim.
She sounded nice to me, I and Feminism sitting on a tree, Changing, Creating history. I was in support only because I saw it too. The fact that women were discriminated from literally everything: sports, education, rights, earnings and laughter and some others. The fact that they were entitled to: being full time housewives, hard and painful labour, single parenting, rape and maltreatment, slavery, and satisfying the filthy pleasure of their insatiable jobless husbands.
But again, Feminism, my beautiful supposed to be, has been mistaken. Recalling, back in school, when we all were punished. The teacher, who had always done this, gave the boys double the strokes he had given the girls; and if he didn’t want to look partial he gave the same numbers of stokes but with lessee effort. Now were equality, where are the girls who are treated unfairly, because you only sight feminism from the political or historical point if view.
Recalling, I watched a movie where 3 men with the qualifications, perfect results and goods look were denied a job. Then a desperate half-naked lady walks in and his hired without hesitation, she lies that she was assaulted and raped. Perhaps she felt the way to gain that feminist power was through her body part, or the man was a sexual pervert. But what about the three young men…So much for women not being treated equal.
After watching this movie, I picked up the same oxford dictionary and thought I’ll find words like, ‘ Masculinism’ , ‘Malinism’, ‘Meninism’ —there wasn’t– but there were more words that depicted men against the women.
I also recall when I told one of my friends, a girl, “Let’s carry it” and she says no. I asked why, then I regretted because of her foolish reply, “I am a girl”. I began thinking of Chimamanda’s Flawless Speech. Did this woman just say words to the world that she knew couldn’t reach the in depth of Nigeria, because I was 67% sure that the male child knows more about feminism than the female child. Did you think she wrote to only Ijeawele and not for the world to read. The female child embraced it, embraced that it was normal to be normal and abnormal to be abnormal. Failed to realise that the abnormal was the unique. Yet, they mention men not making them feel equal, the problem pertains around them, so they need not blame the male child.
Feminism has been mistaken as men are yet to be oppressed. Feminism has been mistaken has the future girl child is made ignorant of it. FEMINISM HAS BEEN MISTAKEN!